No one can take away the pain you feel after the loss of your child. Though it may not feel possible right now, there are steps you can take to help yourself cope. Healing takes time—and while the grief may never fully disappear, you can begin to carry it differently.
Below are some suggestions to support you as you move forward in your grief:
Don’t Run Away from Your Feelings
Allow yourself to mourn—cry when you need to. Take things one day at a time and grieve at your own pace. When possible, try to identify and name your emotions; this can help you feel a greater sense of control when emotions feel overwhelming.
Spend Time with People Who Bring You Comfort
Find someone who makes you feel safe and heard—someone who can listen without judgment. This might be a family member, close friend, faith leader, or support group peer.
Tell People What You Need
Those around you may want to help but are not sure how. Let them know what is helpful—and what is not. You do not have to say the “right” thing; just speak honestly and from the heart. You have every right to ask for the support you need.
Draw Boundaries
You may want more time alone or prefer to be around only certain people. It is okay to protect your space, time, and energy. Setting boundaries is a healthy way to care for yourself. (See the Grief Circle section for more guidance.)
Find Ways to Relieve Stress
Look for outlets that help you express your feelings externally. This could include physical activity, creative expression (such as painting or journaling), or even something like a smash room. Try to get sleep when you can and continue eating regularly—even when your appetite is low.
Be Patient with the Process
Grief is a long and deeply personal journey. Set small, realistic goals—moment by moment, day by day. Moving forward does not mean forgetting your child or “moving on.” It means finding ways to live while carrying their memory with you.
Wait Before Making Major Decisions
If possible, avoid making big life decisions—like moving, changing jobs, or major financial changes—while you are still in the early stages of grief. Some professionals recommend waiting up to two years after the death of a loved one before making life-altering choices.