Every year in the United States, between 3 and 10 million children witness intimate partner violence between their caregivers. These children really do suffer as a result. I have often played a 911 call during training of a 6-year-old calling for help as her mother is beaten (Warning: This phone call is very disturbing to hear. Listen with caution.). This is not an uncommon response to a traumatic event. The problem is these acute reactions do not always get noticed.
Our introduction into the amazing world of parenthood… and then our abrupt reality check in the form of a life-threatening congenital heart defect & the successful medical interventions taken at Texas Children’s Hospital which taught us to never take a day for granted. This is our story.
One of the most difficult places to be is outside looking into a violent or controlling relationship. One sees the pain in the victim's eyes and sometimes written all over their body. Think about what the child has gone through (which we'll talk about in more detail in my next blog post). And yes, think about the perpetrator. I couldn't have done my job for as long as I have and not believe that people are deep down (sometimes way deep down) good. I imagine when one lashes out, a part of him or her feels bad for hurting the person he or she loves.